[T]he root source of human suffering is [the] very split between "me" and "my experience." Suffering is nothing more than the observer judging, resisting, struggling with, and attempting to control experiences that seem painful, scary, or threatening to it. Without that struggle, difficult feelings can be experienced more simply and directly, instead of as dire threats to the survival and integrity of "me."
~ John Welwood, Toward a Psychology of Awakening, p. 101
The secret is just to say "Yes!" and jump off from here.
~ Shunryu Suzuki Roshi, Not Always So